Indian Matchmaking: Regressive or a Sad Reality?
Social media took to town with the release of the show Indian Matchmaking on Netflix. The show is being called out for glamorising the stereotype of an age-old and deeply rooted arranged marriage system prevalent in India. Despite the hate that the show is garnering and the fact that watching the epiosdes itself makes us queasy, it is an unabridged documentation of the arranged marriage process in India with the spice of reality TV. As much as we hate it that’s exactly the way most of the marriages in India are planned. And for parents with children of ‘marriageable age’, characters like Sima Aunty are nothing less than Wonder Woman.
The mind behind the show is of an Oscar-nominated filmmaker Smriti Mundhra. Lesser known fact- Smriti had met Mumbai’s top matchmaker Sima Taparia while she was on a wild goose chase of finding her own soulmate.
Here’s what we thought of the show:
1. Don’t judge the book by its cover
The first impression is certainly not the last one.
Time and again Sima aunty tells her clients not to judge the person by his / her photo and meet atleast once to get a better idea. How many times has it happened with you that you dismissed a person at first go but later you guys just hit it off?
On that note, Sima aunty, your advise is well taken.
2. Dating Apps have failed most of us, isn’t it? But sush…
Many people in the show are seen expressing their views about how dating applications have not worked well for them. Let’s face it, the Indian society still cringes at the idea of a dating app. But many of have sometimes used it and pushed that fact under the carpet. The show lays the ground for not taking dating applications as a thing to look down upon.
Aparna was of the opinion that she and Shekar had a good time. But Shekar thought they both wanted different things out of life and rejects the proposal. Aparna smiles through this rejection and doesn’t take it to her heart. In fact, she goes on to say that “If someone doesn’t like me it’s their problem because I like me”.
That’s so cool and oozes ultra positivity. How many of us can really do that?
4. Life does give a second chance
The story of Rupam, a pretty, clam, sorted Sikh divorcee with a child, is an example of the sour reality of our society and its cruel outlook towards a divorcee.
No matter how open-minded we all claim to be, somewhere we all have our reservations in picking a divorcee or a widow as a life partner, isn’t it? But the show has done justice by showing that Rupam finds someone yet again who loves her incredibly for who she is without any judgements.
5. Akshay wants his life partner to be like his mother, umm…
Such men are the reason why women are still scared and not excited about the whole idea of marriage in India. Akshay would win the poll about being the most annoying person on the show. For all girls who are out there to get married, watch out for a spineless character type named Akshay.
6. Being casteist is very much ok just don’t say it out loud
Nadia, a young, pragmatic, beatiful girl is an event planner from New Jerseywho runs her own company. Such a talented girl is rejected on multiple occasions by men only on the ground that her ancestors settled in Guyana about 200 years ago. Like Woah!
That speaks a lot about the baseless and evil casteist mentality that prevails strongly even today.
There are many such facts that one can pen down about Indian Matchmaking but we would now like to raise a few intriguing questions for our very own Sima Aunty who can also be tagged as an Indian Karen. Here it goes:
Dear Sima Aunty,
- You have used two words incessantly during the show “Compromise” and “Adjustment” – did you misspell these words for “Striking a balance” and “Adapting”?
- Does chanting mantras really solve life problems? If so then can you please have a live class to teach that art.
- You had mentioned that “Matches are made in heaven and God has given me the job to make it successful on earth” – is it overwhelming and stressful to do such a vital work assigned by God?
- All your clients seem to belong to affluent families. But I am sure that’s not your only target audience, right.
- You commenting on a girl’s mental stability, her stubbornness, her career choices, her not so photogenic face and so on, isn’t cool. Please remember that, will you?
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